Staying Connected: Long-Distance Friendship Hacks

By Caitlin Lucas

As we grow older, it’s common to move around and lose touch with friends. Long-distance friendships can be especially challenging to maintain, but they are worth the effort. In my own life, I’ve been fortunate to maintain deep, meaningful friendships despite the distance. I know that’s not by chance, so here are a few tips that have helped me:

1. Communicate regularly: Just because you’re physically apart doesn’t mean you have to be emotionally distant. It takes effort to stay in touch with your friends through regular phone calls, video chats, or even group calls. Share updates about your life, listen attentively to their stories, and show genuine interest in their well-being. If you want true friendship no matter the distance, sacrifice the nightly TV show or Instagram scroll and call a friend instead. 

2. Pray for each other: Prayer is a powerful tool for deepening your friendships. I’ve found that praying for my friends’ spiritual growth, well-being, and specific needs helps us feel more connected and supported. It’s comforting to know that someone is praying for you, even when you’re miles apart.

3. Plan visits: Seeing each other in person is important for maintaining long-distance friendships. Even if it’s just once a year, make an effort to plan a trip to see your friends. It doesn’t have to be an elaborate vacation – even meeting in the middle for a weekend can create lasting memories and strengthen your bond.

Maybe you want a friendship like this, but you’re struggling to find it. Don’t give up hope. Keep seeking God’s guidance and ask Him to bring the right people into your life. Know that the best way to receive friendship is to be a good friend yourself. Reach out often, send encouragement (a Venmo for coffee on a bad day can go a long way), and show up for your friends when you can.

Long-distance friendships require effort and intentionality, but they are worth it. By communicating regularly, praying for each other, and planning visits, I know that you can maintain deep, meaningful friendships no matter where life takes you because I’ve experienced it firsthand.

September 1, 2023